Being a full time MOM: Does it make you a lesser person?

Apoorva Singh 

It is a tough decision for every working lady to give up on her aspirations and professional ambitions to nurture a little life and become a full time, ‘stay at home’ mom. It requires confidence, courage and guts to leave a life which you have been cherishing and enter a new phase: be a full time mother. Yes, I have left my job and trust me; I am happier and a lot more enthusiastic person now. I love spending all my time with my little bundle of joy.

The bond of love!

There is no doubt that the right time to build the bond between you and your child is the first few years. Professional opportunities and money will keep knocking your door time and again, but that special bond is now or never. I wanted to sacrifice my career or rather tweak my lifestyle so that I could pamper my baby with all my love, care and efforts. Do I expect something in return? Yes, I am sure he will come to me, to share every little secret of his life and consider me a friend.  It’s a privilege and a blessing to watch your baby go up on the growth chart, milestone by milestone. Yes, at times I do feel exhausted with no energy but that one smile on my baby’s face makes all the fatigue, exhaustion and frustration worth it.

Mom’s the first teacher

I am trying to raise a happy, confident, and kind human and undoubtedly I am his first teacher. It is my responsibility, no one else’s. Studies have shown that 80% of a child’s brain develops in the initial 5 years. It is very important for a mother to play an active part in baby’s development during these first few growing up years. 

Commitment and focus?

I want to enjoy this phase; being a mother to the fullest. I am a teacher by profession and it demands 100% commitment on my part towards the young minds I educate.  I can’t spoil the future of an entire class by not being fully focused and alert. If I keep thinking about the needs, feeds, pee and poop of my baby in the classroom; how will I nurture the young brains. That is why, I am better at home. I can bet no job would have given me this satisfaction and contentment I feel right now.

Yes, I don’t go out to work but that doesn’t imply I don’t work. I am on duty 24×7 for my baby, my home and my husband. Sometimes, I let my creativity take over me and do things I love to do; for which I could never take out time earlier.

My life is more colorful and bright now and I am cherishing all the colors with equal love and zest.